maybe leading with your heart hasn’t gotten you into trouble

I said to my client, “Let your heart lead the way and it won’t steer you in the wrong direction.”

She said, “It’s the listening to my heart that has gotten me into trouble in the past.”

I’ve heard this a lot from clients, regardless of their relationship status, where they believe that following their hearts in love has lead them to making mistakes.

This just isn’t true.

As imperfect humans our mind, the ego, is constantly looking for ways to be, act, and think perfectly.

Interesting right!?

Our ego believes that if we lead from the mind and not the heart, we don’t ever have to feel hurt or pain, and for the mind that means always feeling safe and secure.

In striving for perfection, our mind will create all kinds of rules, formulas, or ways it thinks it can ensure you never have to feel rejected, heartbroken, or in pain when it comes to love.

Such as,

if I just shut down or ignore it, somehow it will go away,
I don’t want to seem too needy or clingy,
next time I will take things slowly,
I won’t let myself get too excited,
I will make sure to not be as picky

However, I think you see the problem here.

There is no way to avoid heartbreak, feeling hurt, or rejection when it comes to love, falling in love, being intimate, and having a deeply fulfilling relationship.

This is where people get things mixed up.

They feel that following their heart is irrational and will lead to heartbreak. But it doesn’t matter if you follow your head or your heart, you aren’t going to avoid making mistakes.

Following your heart has allowed you to LIVE, to experience life in ways that leaves you with little regret.

You’ve experienced moments of bliss, passion, and undeniable joy.

Without those experiences of…

falling in love,
giving a relationship a shot even if you stayed in it too long,
loving someone that doesn’t love you back,
crying over a past love for way too long,
losing yourself in a relationship

You wouldn’t be who you are today right now in this moment.

When you relate to these moments of heartbreak as a way to evolve yourself, you can transform the way you receive and give love in profound ways.

In fact nothing else, other than having children, can come close to showing you the unconscious patterns (karmic entanglements) that have you relating to others and yourself in ways that aren’t serving you.

There is an ocean of love that exists inside of you, and you can’t see or experience the depth of it because of these unconscious patterns.

So, it’s essential to lead with your heart because the head will rationalize and justify all the joy and bliss in your life away.

Lead with your heart knowing every moment you do experience hurt or pain in your love journey, it’s calling you to look within. It’s a calling to release something old to then open yourself up to something new and freeing.

Who’s in?

If it’s hard to drop into your heart, try this. Think of someone you deeply love in your life and voila that warmth in your heart drops you right in.

Tell me in the comments below, what do you think? Are you willing to lead with your heart?

In Love,


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