How honest are you being?

I was hanging out with a good friend of mine, Nitika (she is the founder of, who was also a client at one point. And she said something interesting to me while we were chatting over dinner.


I grew up with Jain Dharma, one of the oldest religions in the world. I have mentioned before it is more of a philosophy than a religion. Shall we say a way of life. In Jain Dharma we believe that every human being has the ability to reach a God-like state, meaning our soul has the ability to be enlightened. Enlightenment simply means complete knowledge, happiness, and eternal bliss.

So, I basically grew up knowing that divinity is who I really am. That very understanding has shaped the person I am today. Now I tell you this not because you have to believe in what I believe in, however, can we agree that we are all trying to understand who we are and be happier in our lives within the human experience?

If so, then we are on the same page.

Getting back to what Nitika said to me… I don’t think you really get what you do for women. You don’t just help them find love, you help them get honest and stand up for who they really are, so they can have BIG love.

The words flew out of her mouth and hit me in my gut, you know the only way the truth can do to us. It gave her chills while saying it, and I couldn’t stop thinking about what she had just revealed to me.

She was so RIGHT.

I find that there is such a thirst for honesty.  When you hear someone speaking from a place of honesty, you can fill it in your bones. I know I look for this in everyone that I keep close in my life.  When someone can be honest with who they are, the good and the bad, is such a TURN ON. There is something so powerful about it.

When a man that is confident and has an air about him, a presence, whether he is the cutest man in the room or not, falls away because he is no longer just a body but a spirit of something bigger. If that is the kind of man you are looking for, then it is essential for you to also be super honest about who you are and stand up for the divinity within you.

My highest purpose in this lifetime is to EVOLVE. For me that means honoring the gifts I have and make peace with the parts that I am resisting. Allow them to shine as well, instead of hiding them. This is what being honest with ourselves looks like.

Your Lovework for this week is simple. You are divine. If there is a purpose to everything that exists, like how flowers create pollen that the bees use to make honey and these plants emit oxygen that allow us to breath, then there is a purpose to why you exist.  Stand up for what that is. Know that you are worth it.

Tell us what you are going to do this week to stand up for who you are, post it below.

In Love,


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